Resolution takes time, patience and acceptance of actions and emotions out of our control. Time can be days, weeks, months and sometimes years; even then, there is no guarantee of an agreeable outcome. Emotions often blind our ability to see a situation for what it is; hope can also stunt our ability to move forwards.
I find it fascinating that emotions, these things you cannot see or touch create such a physical reaction and cause such physical responses. It seems that life is a cycle of emotions; an eternal rollercoaster with no stops, just highs and lows and twists and turns and the occaisional 'jerk' which sometimes acts as a wake up call, a moment of realisation, slots a piece in the puzzle; then the rollercoaster starts all over again. On experiencing a 'jerk', do we act upon the moment and resolve the related issue or acknowledge the reminder and keep it alive but buried.
As I get older, I have started to filter through the people in my life and work out what matters; who and why. The number of people that matter reduces, our investment is greater and more focussed and the emotions involved are stronger and deeper - as a result, the need for answers, pieces of the puzzle and therefore resolution is amplified.
Life is lived forwards, but best understood backwards - where timing of the ride seems to be the cause of most joy and most pain.
Thursday, 18 March 2010
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The problem with decisions about who is important in your life is that sometimes they are static - unfortunately once you have made them you really cannot change them no matter how wrong the basis for your decision may turn out to be.
ReplyDeleteEmotions do indeed blind our ability to see things, and people, clearly. Perhaps this is something I really should have realised a long time ago - that no matter how many excuses you make for someone because you really care about them - you simply cannot make them care about you back and you are wasting your time and effort on someone who simply doesn't deserve it.
Investment/effort in people more or less of the time leads to disappointment, people have their own agendas through life where questions can never really be fully answered. What if the emotions you feel are not reciprocated; the other parties do not want to be resolved, then your time and investment has been wasted. But when do you realise this?
ReplyDeleteIf you are a character that runs with their emotions, wears their heart on their sleeve then emotions can very easily blind you, stunt your ability to move forwards. People can also blind you; they make it apart of their agenda to keep you attached, crave attention and want you to panda to their needs. Unfortunately for the emotion driven character who experiences the 'jerk' it maybe a case of stepping away and seeing the situation for what it is; not try to fix it and just let the other persons agenda take its own turns of events!